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Absolutely love how you unpacked this and explored it; and how you used your own family as an example to make it real and relevant. Also appreciate how you distinguish between those fleeting, seasonal states like a crush/infatuation/admiration vs. actual love that is stronger, more stable, much deeper. It's so important to distinguish between the two. When that distinction is unclear (which happens quite often for a variety of reasons), it inevitably sets the stage for problems.

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This was an excellent read. I shared it with my wife and it led us to start talking about crushes the other day and I confessed that I had a crush for Anoushka Shankar - for those of you who don't know she is the daughter of the famous sitar player Ravi Shankar. Anoushka Shankar followed in her father's footsteps and became a sitar player as well. Whenever I am stressed or need to decompress, I listen to music - no words - and her music is especially calming...as was her father's music. That's the reason for my crush. I know. I know. I'm boring. LOL.

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"They do come around slowly and at the most unexpected times" Sometimes it would be when shooting hoops, or just eating lunch. Suddenly the questions would come, and yes, I'd get a chance to peek into his world and learn what was troubling him. Still so grateful for those moments of trust.

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