The Ambivalence of the Christmas Holiday Season: A Professor's Perspective
By Sylvie Edwards | The classes are almost over, the radio is playing festive songs. We are setting up the tree and gathering for the season. It should be "Joy to the World" but is it that simple?
By Sylvie Edwards for Sankarsingh-Gonsalves Productions
It should be "Joy to the World" but is it that simple?
As the Christmas holiday approaches, it brings a unique blend of emotions. For many, this time of year is synonymous with joy, celebration, and togetherness. However, it can also evoke feelings of ambivalence, a mix of excitement and anxiety, happiness and melancholy. This duality is not uncommon and can be understood through various lenses, including psychological, sociocultural, and personal perspectives.
The Psychological Dimension
From a psychological standpoint, the ambivalence experienced during Christmas can be attributed to the heightened expectations and pressures associated with the holidays. The media often portrays an idealized version of Christmas, filled with perfect family gatherings, lavish gifts, and unending cheer. This portrayal can create unrealistic expectations, leading to stress and disappointment when reality does not measure up.
Moreover, the end of the year is a natural time for reflection. Individuals may look back on the past year, assessing their achievements and failures. This introspection can bring about a sense of nostalgia and regret, particularly if personal goals were not met. The contrast between the festive atmosphere and personal reflections can contribute to the mixed emotions many feel.
Sociocultural Influences
Sociocultural factors also play a significant role in shaping our experiences of the holiday season. Christmas, while a religious holiday for many, has also become a cultural phenomenon celebrated by people of various backgrounds. This widespread celebration can sometimes lead to a sense of obligation rather than genuine enjoyment. The pressure to conform to societal norms—such as decorating homes, buying gifts, and attending numerous social events—can be overwhelming.
I cannot help but think that this season puts a lot of pressure on international students who are away from home and may long for some family interaction. It can be difficult to be cheery when your mind and heart are miles away.
Additionally, the commercialization of Christmas has shifted the focus from meaningful connections to materialism. The emphasis on gift-giving and consumerism can detract from the holiday's true spirit, leading to feelings of emptiness and dissatisfaction. For those who may not have the financial means to participate fully in these traditions, the season can be particularly challenging.
Personal Reflections
On a personal level, the holiday season can be a time of both joy and sorrow. For some, it is a period of reunion with loved ones, creating cherished memories. For others, it can be a stark reminder of loss and loneliness. The absence of a loved one, whether due to death, distance, or estrangement, can be acutely felt during this time. The contrast between the collective celebration and personal grief can amplify feelings of ambivalence.
Furthermore, the holiday season often disrupts daily routines, which can be both a blessing and a curse. While the break from work or school provides an opportunity for relaxation, it can also lead to a sense of aimlessness and lack of structure. This disruption can be unsettling for those who thrive on routine and predictability.
Finding Balance
Given the complex emotions associated with the Christmas season, it is important to find a balance that allows for both celebration and self-care. Acknowledging and accepting ambivalence is a crucial first step. It is normal to feel a mix of emotions during this time, and permitting oneself to experience these feelings without judgment can be liberating.
Setting realistic expectations is also key. Rather than striving for a perfect holiday, focusing on meaningful connections and personal well-being can lead to a more fulfilling experience. This might involve simplifying traditions, setting boundaries, and prioritizing activities that bring genuine joy.
Additionally, practicing gratitude can help shift the focus from what is lacking to what is present. Taking time to appreciate the small moments of joy and connection can enhance overall well-being. Engaging in acts of kindness and giving, whether through volunteering or simple gestures, can also foster a sense of purpose and community.
The ambivalence of the Christmas holiday season is a reflection of its multifaceted nature. It is a time of joy and sorrow, celebration and reflection, connection and solitude. By understanding the psychological, sociocultural, and personal dimensions of this ambivalence, we can navigate the season with greater awareness and compassion. Embracing the full spectrum of emotions allows us to create a more authentic and meaningful holiday experience.
About the author: Sylvie Edwards has been involved in Project Management in several industries for more than 25 years. She is a post secondary #educator, and a blogger on all things related to #projectmanagement. Sylvie is a two term past President and current member on the board of directors for the PMI-DHC (Project Management Institute- Durham Highlands Chapter). She had the honour of being named Fellow of the Project Management Association of Canada (FPMAC).
